Now is a time that we need to look within the stillness of our hearts and find the mercy that resides there. Since biblical times, we human beings have convinced ourselves that we can exercise our dominion over the earth – over nature. And countless times we have been harshly, frighteningly rebuked. Be it from volcanic explosions, storms, droughts, conflagrations of all sorts. Life is fragile. We are now experiencing another of mankind’s many plagues. If we have a God, we are asking that God for mercy. As well we should. We all need mercy. But if we can’t give each other mercy, how can we expect a divine force to give it?
The same is true in our most intimate relationships. Just this past week, I heard how a couple tore each other to shreds because they disagreed about the way to get their daughter home from college. I heard how she needed her partner’s care because she was so scared and I heard how he needed to feel heard and not dictated to by her and not to feel erased. I suggested the underlying pain – and need – to each of them, but they are very early in this work and it is hard, yet, to not feel frightened and defended. They cannot gift the other with mercy, because it is such a leap – such a risk. Each needs that from the other so wrenchingly.
Maybe this time can be a gift. The mercy we beseech from our own almighty, we can offer our partner…and ourselves.
This is a frightening time and here in Seattle/Bellevue the losses are starting and will likely grow. The next month or two will be unlike any of us have ever conceived of, much less experienced. However, mankind has experienced deep loss and has recovered….with mercy.
My deepest wishes to anyone who reads this blogpost for safety, health and love in this unsettling time. Love is the only thing that eventually saves us.